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Of Work and Family Across the Millennia:
Family Therapy and Family Policy Relational Time Travel
with the First Family of Time Travel --

What if Albert Einstein, Mileva Maric Einstein and their children Lieserl, Hans Albert and Eduard, lived in 2001 instead of 1901? Or conversely, what if family therapy and the emerging best European and world family/work policies of 2001 were available to their family and all families in 1901 - could that have systemically influenced the 20th century to have been peaceful and democratic? How will family therapy and widespread family leave bring forth the full genius of the human family in the 21st century?

Alternative Title: And the name of the child means "Gift of God"

Table of Contents

Introduction: Work, Family and Genius
The Thought Experiments for 2001
Thought Experiment 1 -- Albert and Mileva
  Actual Genogram
  Alternative Timeline Genograms with Family Therapy - 1 2 3
  Actual Timeline Albert / Alternate Timeline Albert
  Actual Timeline Mileva / Alternate Timeline Mileva
Thought Experiment 2 -- Lieserl
  Actual Timeline /   Alternate Timeline
Thought Experiment 3 -- Eduard
  Actual Timeline /   Alternate Timeline
Thought Experiment 4 -- Hans Albert Jr.
  Actual Timeline /   Alternate Timeline
Thought Experiment 5 -- Family Therapists in Collaboration
  Family Therapists Sample Timeline
Nature, Relation and Time: Synchronicities

Love, Work, Family and Genius

Perhaps always, and especially since the industrial age of the last century, families around our world have increasingly sought a better, more natural societal and personal integration of love and work. They seek a better balance, so that the genius abilities of both men and women will be offered to the workplace/larger society to benefit humankind, and yet so that both men and women can enjoy increased flexibility to be with their children during the formative periods of infancy and young childhood, and strengthen the affectional family and child-parent bonds upon, which experts increasingly inform us, creative, ethical and peaceful society are built.

We assume that most, perhaps all, people on earth are gifted in one way or another. Carl Jung offered several major ways of knowing: feeling, intuiting, sensing and judging, and modern psychologists, have indeed identified at least 7 major forms of intelligence or "genius", and even so-called non-genius people likely possess far greater abilities within their brains and capacity for thought than are presently called into use. Human history in recent centuries through the 20th confined most men and women to many limitations in their opportunities to combine education, work and caring for their children. Even today, juggling the hectic or seemingly competing pressures of work and family life still confine billions of people to perhaps at least slightly lesser achievements than those of the dreams of their childhood musings and human hearts; less than their true potential in both work achievement and parenting. In 2001, still scores of millions, indeed billions of men and women of earth, must forgo the wise daydreams of imagination that the genius Einstein encouraged all people to heed, and the wondrous imaginings he felt gave rise to his own, and any person's genius. Because of our lack of integration of work and family policies, it is probably true that the world is being deprived of genius, and indeed, pro-social genius, as well as the genius of fully socially valued parental love toward children, part of what Salovey and Goleman have called emotional intelligence, on a massive scale.

We at WonderWare, Inc. agree with Albert Einstein that "imagination is more important than knowledge", for it is imagination, the questions, the hypotheses, that gives rise to the search and discovery of knowledge itself. Yet, how can young parents worldwide encourage their children to imagine when neither parents nor children have enough time for work and, with intimacy and tender bond, for each other? How can 21st century therapists help these families, and their societies, chart a healthy peaceful path, indeed, a whole, actualized and genius path for self and society, into the new Millennium?

Many people feel that technology has speeded up our lives and yet sapped our time and intimacy with family and community - our time at home to think and dream. Yet, fortunately, information age technology is also potentially and rapidly making a shorter work week, work at home, flextime, telecommuter work, and extended family leave possible for many people - in already many nations, both men and women - for the first time since the industrial age. Aided by global information, many societies are just beginning to maturely consider the full importance of family time, maternity, paternity and family leave from work time, for parent-child and spousal interaction and bonding during the young parenting years, and its personal as well as long term societal pro-social and creative impact.

Fortunately, an International Center now exists at Columbia University which is a clearinghouse for family leave/pro-parent (both men and women) policies worldwide. The Center can be visited on the World Wide Web at and offers materials comparing family/parental leave worldwide, both maternal and paternal. Several other resources on this and related topics are also available on the internet internationally, such as:,, the work of Jeremy Rifkin on human social and community systems related to his book "The End of Work" at the Foundation for Economic Trends at and many others. There is a great need for integration of these resources, and family therapists have much to add that is essential in the manner of an intergenerational family systems discussion to the opportunities these resources offer our world for mental health and human potential; for healing and human full self actualization.

In addition, because most people learn from what they have been exposed to or experience, many if not most families often revisit "emotional" and structural family complexities, sometimes interfacing with changing societal and cultural expectations, often issues that first arose in a previous generation(s). Therapy and modern family therapy have developed increasingly important techniques for assisting individuals and families to resolve unresolved conflicts, instead of experiencing their reappearance, escalation or denial without necessary attention, in a current or next generation. As ancient as the themes of Greek myth, these issues can have a profound impact on families and individuals reaching their potential for love and work. And, as Greek myth also informed us, these issues can also have a profound impact on the larger society's destiny as well.

In this essay, we ask you to answer some questions about the contexts of love, work, creativity, family systems and society, by utilizing our software RELATIVITY(tm) and ECOTIVITY(tm) as they might be used therapeutically to assist a family to increase awareness and avoid pain and disintegration. Our software was inspired by systemic relational aspects of both relativity theory in physics, and relational aspects inherent to general and family systems theory, research and practice. Our software automatically diagrams (using genograms and ecomaps) the facts of a family or community past and present, and our software also incorporates teleology - the dream, the goal, the possibility, the expectation, the notion of future, the positive attitude and open imagination, into the healing and growth processes one can diagram and enable, by quickly displaying computer assisted genograms, ecomaps, and chronologies, that depict relational change over time, even hypothetical, future diagrams and "alternative timelines" as they are often called by those intrigued by relativity theory. We believe this opens up healing, transcendant and empowering possibilities for families and communities.

Building and focusing on questions asked in a related end-of- Millennium essay we completed in 1999 available at, in this beginning-of-a-new Millennium 2001 essay, we ask you to take a quantum leap of imagination, by allowing yourself to become each of the members of the world famous Einstein-Maric family, as well as to become their family therapist, had they had one. The family of Albert Einstein-Marity (Maric was born Austro-Hungarian) was the first family of imagination and time travel. Were they ahead of their times in 1901? Or, was it the social arrangements of their times that was behind their potential as a human beings, behind especially in the sense of not yet offering equality of opportunity for men and women, and not yet giving support to many young families?

Was there a 100 year gap, a cultural disconnect, between 20th century science and technology and emerging 21st century pro-family (pro men and women both) policy and family systemic therapy? Was this gap an underlying factor in the social unhappiness and war-torn culture of the 20th century? Are we carrying this lag into the 21st century? Will the 21st century be fully family-aware, and with policy and therapy achieved equally, mutually and caringly by men and women mutually and together? Will the better balance unleash greater genius throughout the human family? We ask you to travel with this family, (and your own family as you imagine its future) to decide. Therefore, we propose the following "thought experiments", as Einstein called them, or, if you will, exercises in teleological healing imagination for the 21st century, using diagrams and examples produced by our software to assist you:

The Thought Experiments for 2001

(Note: As you encounter the alternative systemic timelines presented below, i.e., you may prefer to imagine the event dates in the 1900's rather than the 2000's, to consider the way the 20th century might have been had there been family therapy, and pro-family family leave in 1901. That is, instead of this family travelling in time, you can also use the software to let aspects of present time travel back to the family! Imagine the alternative dates as if they were occuring to a young family now, in the 2000's; then, imagine if they had occurred in the 1900's. Either way, you will be thinking systemically over time.)

Thought Experiment 1 -- Albert and Mileva

Could the 20th century have been peaceful if Albert Einstein and Mileva Maric Einstein had received couples therapy or knowledge of family systems and family leave? Will the 21st century be peaceful? Will family systems play a role?

We wonder if the 20th century would have been peaceful and much happier had Albert and Mileva Einstein received 21st century family systemic couples counseling and raised a family not broken by patriarchal shame and divorce, and instead received counseling serious about the human potential of both women and men. Specifically, would World War I, World War II, and the Cold War's nuclear race have been avoided, in such an alternative and therapy-inclusive timeline for the young man Albert, who was born in Germany, and the young woman Mileva, who was born in the Hungarian/Balkan area that became torn by the World Wars and the Cold War?

Looking upon the Einstein-Marity young student couple in science exactly one hundred years ago vs today as reference points, can we assume that 21st century family counseling may help prevent the 21st century scientific and even social scientific community from seeing their families from suffering, torn by war or hatred and/or their works misused? By providing family therapy to young university and grad students, can we insure that 21st century science, in all areas, makes quantum leaps into humbled yet awesome good rather than imbalanced technoweapons, and "eugenic" and xeno/regional-competitive disaster (as occurred in the wars and weapons stockpiles of the 20th century)?

To help answer this thought experiment, first visit the actual genogram showing Albert and Mileva and the actual timelines for each, for Albert and Mileva, focuss ng on the relational and historical events of 1901 and those that really followed in the 20th century, too often related to war and tragedy. The genogram shows the unremediated ambivalent close-hostile relationship of Albert and his mother that emerged as Albert sought independence and intimacy toward his girlfriend, and the mother-in-law's cut off from Mileva. A particularly poignant moment, when an unplanned, as yet out of wedlock pregnancy which she dare never tell her enmeshed prospective mother-in-law as well as her all male classmates precurses Mileva's failure to pass her exams, with no counseling available to the young couple, can be viewed and highlighted by our software, using its time travel features. Remember that Mileva was the nearly the only woman in physics of her generation, and most women of her generation were barred by discrimination from access to both higher education and work contribution to any field. The notion of a woman being both wife and mother and colleague was almost unheard of, as was a mutually integrated approach to work and family, for men and women. A man who shared childraising with his wife would have been frowned upon, as well, even if he liked children very much, as Albert did. Thus, the family and cultural pressure upon Mileva and her beloved to "accept her as an academic and scientific failure" and force her to choose a then publically acceptable, non-scandalous path to motherhood (after she and Albert were married, she gave a very "proper" birth to Hans Albert in 1904) without planning for career or intellectual achievement, were enormous. The couple kept their respectability in the eyes of their patriarchal community, and Albert was considered respectable enough to allow him to contribute ideas for a while ...until imbalanced patriarchy overwhelmed Europe in first one war, and then another after which Einstein was forced to flee with the fear that science would now be used to make horrific weapons. Ironically, the lone and isolated woman left in science, Meitner, witnessed her work quickly "accepted" by then almost all male colleagues, because of its value for military purposes.

Then, alternately, visit Albert and Mileva's systemic alternative timeline genograms, at the beginning of therapy, mid-therapy, and after therapy, and timelines (Albert's) (Mileva's), as if they lived and had received systemic family therapy and could anticipate the availability of family leave, in 2001. The software shows the family prior to family, during, and as things are still going very well, after all three children are born. (We have stopped here to save space for the purpose of essay; the alternate time line genogram would actually continue, of course, for the next generations; in a previous essay, we have attempted to include the circles and squares for the lives of some of the real and currently living descendants on a genogram, but we prefer these real Einstein descendants to have privacy of using our software in their own homes, may that come to pass). But on these ideal, alternative timelines, note the greater health and harmony, the many relational changes in personal, family and world events, especially after Albert differentiates from enmeshment, and he and Mileva work as a team, supported and cheered by an closely connected but better differentiated family, to both be active parents and yet have time to think and work together to develop ethical science and prevent war. All this occurs after our hypothetical family therapy resolution of the intergenerational conflicts and cut-offs with Albert's mother, in these alternate time-lines and genogram, so that husband and wife are freer to think and plan their lives./P>

Do you wonder, as we do, that it is systemically probable that the ability of young couples in science to receive intergenerational family systems therapy can literally save their marriages, help them mutually coordinate family life and scientific contribution, help them to work as powerful ethical teams in science, change their nations and the world for good, and potentially not only save the world from disaster, but put it well on the path towards becoming a planet where all can live long and prosper?

A liberating woman, a feminist long before feminism became widespread, a brilliant and likely genius yet shy woman whose times were not yet ready for her, Mileva's intellectual talents (and those of most women of her times) were ignored and forgotten, her instincts as wife-mother-potential colleague were fragmented, isolated, marginalized, masculinized, suppressed and discounted, and the young couple's daring and passionate dreams of collaboration while forging an ethical science for society were lost, with profound implications for the misuse of science in the 20th century. Stunned by the path closing to her in physics (she likely may have chosen biophysics had she been encouraged to continue on a path that balanced family and work) to her credit, Mileva did raise her publically acceptable children, her sons with devotion. She also spent many hours tutoring children in science, and language. But during her century, teaching school age children itself was thought of as an "inferior" "just a woman's" activity and her society gave little prestige and importance to these activities, and then, as, regrettably still too often now, "genius" motherhood and parenting activities (of fatherhood as well) were taken generally taken for granted, and made invisible, instead of planned into a life course that was also respected by even prestigious work and academic organizations. Today, it is probably unknown if any of her pupils themselves became great scientists or teachers because of exposure to her, and the century gave no Nobel Prizes for teaching, among other fields where women are well represented. The holistic notion that the same person who spends time with schoolage children might also become a full professor, and vice versa, was (and still is oddly) rare.

Without a wife as a scientific colleague, Einstein often struggled alone to achieve ethics in his field, but his ethical pacifist voice was easily overwhelmed, and he saw many colleagues succumb/sacrificed to the aggressive juggernaut of humanly and ethically imbalanced applied science, fueled by economic and political competition, that spiraled twice into world war and decades of nuclear intimidation, in the 20th century, his actual timeline.

In his actual timeline, despite his enormous fame, his deep and humble good will, his genius, and his best intentions, Albert Einstein did not die a completely happy man. He felt he had failed in bringing about some of the most important dreams of his youth, involving world peace, social justice and harmony, as well as a society fit for the powers of science and travel in space-time. He was deeply frustrated in his efforts to discovery the GTOE - the so-called and inherently relational Grand Theory of Everything. He stated openly and with deep sadness that he had failed at marriage, and somewhat, even failed his own children. He died alone, attended by a stranger who did not understand his last words. Could he have reached ALL his goals if he and Mileva were alive today. Will his unfinished striving inspire young men and women of all fields today to combine their genius to go further than Albert and Mileva?

Happily, for 21st century scientists-to-be and young marrieds, family education and family therapy resources are becoming more available at Universities, and dual career programs http://www.physics.wm .edu/dualcareer.html and are being explored; but the resources do not yet meet the important need. Such programs profoundly deserve the cooperation of the family systems and therapy community to achieve best success for both student couples and their society. With many scientists moving into the exploration of not only genetic theory, but some considering such potential applications as cloning, nanotechnology, artificial intelligence, biotechnology drugs that may affect the brain, and so on, we at WonderWare believe that the presence of many loving husbands and wives in science (among other fields, of course), with lifelong bonds of intellectual and emotional respect for each other, for colleagues of both gender, and for children and family life well integrated with work, will be the best ethical and systemic protection for the science of the 21st century. Our attention to this area seems certainly necessary, overdue, and perhaps urgent, if 21st century science and technology are to be more than momentarily or prematurely powerful and therefore possibly tragic on a global scale, but fully ethically evolved, enlightened, harmonious with nature, and systemically beneficial, instead

Thought Experiment 2 -- Lieserl

Was Lieserl Einstein a lost genius because her family did not have family therapy? Will girls and boys of the 21st century both be raised as gifts full of genius? Will family policy support everyday genius parents who practice genius loving and parenting?

We wonder, if her family had received the benefit of family systems education/therapy, would daughter Lieserl herself likely have been a force for human liberation, ethical genius and peace during the 20th century, instead of being lost. Would she have accelerated women's education/liberation throughout Europe, in the United States, and worldwide? Would she have inspired generations of children, both boys and girls, to believe in their talents? Would she have become a poster child for real and authentic human potential, with the often unconventional Albert Einstein pictured with her and her mother Mileva, all playing with compass, violin/piano and telescope, and answering reporters questions about dreaming and thinking for oneself, instead of being hidden in shame, and "forgotten" by her young student parents trying to make their way in the patriarchal world of 20th century physics? Would she have become an activist or political leader, perhaps a President of Israel or united Holy Land, as her father was asked to be, or of a European nation i.e. Switzerland, Hungary, Denmark? In our hypothetical timeline, we have her live to marry a descendant of Neils Bohr, and it is interesting to run the systemic thought experiment of what nations in Europe or worldwide would most quickly welcome leadership from a Lieserl. Perhaps she may have come to be a Secretary General of the United Nations.

Are there children like Lieserl currently coming into existence today? Will 'these Lieserl's' conceptions be pressured or precious, planned or unplanned? Will young scientist, political scientist, (and all) student couples and parents-to-be receive systemic family education and counseling as part of their university education, and where possible, prior to marriage or conception of children? Should the lost Lieserl and her hurt brothers be remembered in their courses on science and society, and ethics? How will that affect fathers, mothers, and extended families in all the disciplines of human endeavor? How will that affect their world, and the fulfillment of their most cherished pro-social goals?

To help answer this thought experiment, we ask you to view Lieserl's firstborn position on this famous families actual 20th century genogram and her actual timeline, Then view and consider the famous family with a 21st century family-therapy-inclusive life course and Lieserl's alternate timeline once the family has experienced family therapy, in their hypothetical 2001. We believe that had her parents received systemic counseling, Lieserl herself would indeed have been a great interdisciplinary, scientific, social activist as well as political leader, a genius empowering millions to learning, conscience and genius, in the 20th century. In a sense, her loss was a systemic butterfly effect to the worse, we believe, for her parents marriage, and thereby, for the 20th century. It was the lost beat of her "wings" that we wonder may have in part interactively lead to the wars of the 20th century, because the systemic ripples and reverberations of the loss of Lieserl, we believe, synergized with other similar events and decisions, effecting women and families especially, and set the stage for cultures of competitive patriarchal hubris and world war in the century past. Yet, we can commemorate, transcend, and regain what was lost, now, in the 21st century, by taking very seriously the lessons that may, ironically, be learned from even her lost and profoundly symbolic missing legacy.

Thought Experiment 3 -- Eduard

Could Eduard Einstein have been one of the 20th centuries greatest psychologists, psychiatrists, or social workers? Might he have lived long and worked with Carl Jung, Anna Freud, Erik Erikson, Alice Miller, as well as Boszormenyi-Nagy, Virginia Satir, Nathan Ackerman, Margaret Mead and Gregory Bateson, Albert Schweitzer, Jane Addams, Joseph Campbell, Murray Bowen, Ann Hartman, Ed Friedman, Salvador Minuchin, Mara Selvini-Palazzoli, Peter Bos, George Vassiliou, and many other great family therapists, altruistic systemic and/or world-focused doctors, psychohistorians and theologians?

Although known to be highly gifted and suspected to be a musical and social-literary budding genius in childhood, son Eduard Einstein was called "too sensitive" and deemed mentally/emotionally disturbed when he was a college pre-med student interested in the new field of psychology. (In one of his depressed "delusions", long before the atom was split, he tried to warn his father that physics might be misused to make megabombs that would threaten the world, a "delusion" which of course, came to pass.) He was hospitalized, and received little or no talk therapy. Treated under the early medical model and electroshock, he received no family therapy. His father was distancing himself from his son during the teen years, because Albert had begun adulterous behavior (toward a cousin approved by his mother) as he and Mileva grew apart, often over issues also related to the nationalistic climates at the Universities where Einstein taught, which Mileva feared. The break came when Mileva insisted on staying in neutral Switzerland, while Einstein received honors in Germany. Would Eduard Einstein have been a force for human genius progress in medicine and psychology in the 20th century had he and his family received internationally cooperative systemic family therapy? In the 1900's, was he a family and societal "identified patient" for being unable to suppress feelings related to the family/cultural secret of his sister's birth and his mother's depression about losing her educational and professional dreams? Would family therapy have helped him to escape the identified patient role, and emerge as a genius in his own right, to his parents' great joy and blessing, because his family would have no such secrets and lost dreams to hide? Would his genius have systemically helped save scores of millions from the travails of mental disturbance in self or family?

To help answer this thought experiment, we ask you to view Eduard's position on this famous families actual 20th century genogram and his actual timeline. Edward was about 6 when his parents marriage unravelled. Eduard's breakdown as a young student occurred when he was beginning a relationship with a woman while in college. At the same time, his step-sister Ilse - by Albert's marriage to his own cousin-second wife - was about to marry. Eduard's "illness" prevented him from celebrating his cousin's wedding; Mileva and Albert were, of course, already divorced at this point, and it seems likely that the event would have stirred suppressed family memories of Lieserl, and traumatically failed romance. Then, view and consider his alternate timeline, with a 21st century life course that he would have had if his family had systemic couples therapy long before he was born, indeed, before having any children. We wonder, if his parents had received systemic family therapy, Eduard would not suffered as he did, but instead may would have completed his pre-med and psychology studies, married a colleague, and he and his wife might have revolutionized 20th century medicine and psychology, perhaps gently, theoretically pioneering the world's wholistic understanding of nature and nurture processes regarding genius, genes and experience by simply observing the "music" of many genogrammed and ecomapped family trees. Perhaps, starting with Eduard Einstein, the Nobel prizes of the 20th century might have included music as well as literature, sociology as well as economics, and psychology as well as medicine. Perhaps then not only would Peace Prizes have been given, but actual world peace achieved. Yet, we can still learn from his fate and his family, and honor him best by increasing our understanding of family systemic relativity in the interpersonal realm.

Thought Experiment 4 -- Hans Albert Jr.

Would Hans Albert Jr. at Berkeley also have achieved even more and had even greater happiness in the 20th century than he did, if there had been a therapeutic intervention in his estrangement from his father and the family situation? Would Hans Albert have even better influenced university education and the training of engineers, not only in hydraulics, (dams and rivers) but in other forms of natural energy and electricity generation, as was his family's tradition? Would Hans Albert and his father and mother have occasionally exchanged interdisciplinary notes on scientific projects and ethics, rather than maintaining an aloof or worried distance, (especially after Albert attempted to prevent his son's first marriage almost as demandingly as Albert's mother had tried to interfere with his?) If they and many other families in their fields had such developed better intergenerational relations, would the fields of ecology, physics, and energy policy, and even free speech and democracy, have known greater, wiser and safer decision-making so that all energy problems would already be a thing of the past for the 21st century? Could genius have become "normal" and "average", while war and oppression lifted, as these generations relations improved? Could Hans have welcomed his whole family to teach seminars at Berkeley?

To help answer this thought experiment, we ask you particularly view Hans Albert Jr.'s position on this famous families actual 20th century genogram and timeline, and then view and consider the famous family with a 21st century family therapy inclusive life course and Hans Albert Jr's. post-therapy timeline once his parents have experienced family therapy, in their hypothetical 2001, We believe that had his whole family received family therapy, Hans Albert and his wife, and many others at Berkeley would have enjoyed so much genius, lived long, and increased worldwide interdisciplinary cooperation with other couples (instead of spending decades fighting the Swiss courts to release the now famous love letters of his parents that revealed the existence of his sister Lieserl), that today many of the world's problems would already have been solved. Remembering his and his wife Frieda's heroic effort to bring Lieserl and the love letters of a young couple to the attention of the world, universities today best honor Hans Albert's and his wife's human legacy, (as well as the transcendant wisdom of his adopted daughter Evelyn and his biological son Thomas and grandchildren), by offering intergenerational family systems education and counseling to students and professors alike. If family therapists reading this at every university establish interdisciplinary links with the professors and student counseling programs for all departments, the legacy of the Einstein-Maric family genius for all the varieties of relativity may be learned by the many young geniuses at all our colleges (and high schools and grammar schools, of course, as well) today. The genius of the mind will be integrated with the genius of the heart at all levels of learning. This is certainly a possibility to wonder about.

Thought Experiment 5 -- Family Therapists in Collaboration

Would a systems therapist say there was something about gender, family and work arrangements of the 20th century that retarded the best uptake and intergenerational nurture of human genius to benefit larger society and sustain it in peace? Was there something in the discriminatory attitudes and work arrangements, especially against women but also severely impacting men, that impeded the expression of emotional intelligence and intuitive wisdom, (the ability to predict the future interpersonal or metasystem impact of microsystem current events), as well as other natural genius, in even some of the world's leading and most brilliant and talented families? Can family therapy and family policy specialists ally and collaborate to bring the best for all the earth's families and liberate widespread human genius in fields of knowledge, in the 21st century? If you are a therapist, what is your plan to learn and know about such policies, and consider them in light of the family and work pressures on your clients and families in their community as it impacts on their, their spouses and children's dreams and goals?

To help answer this question, you may wish to visit web sites about family policy and family counseling as it affects young fathers and mothers in your and other nations such as, and others mentioned above in this essay. Are the political decisions on family policy and mental health resources made in a gender equitable, accountable and representative manner, by men and women people who are educated about family and community systems? Should bringing family systems into the dialogue about maternal and paternal leave be an upcoming task on every family therapists' timeline? Will this be the deciding factor for peace and human potential in the 21st century?

And, as the most important task in answering this question, complete your own family intergenerational genogram and ecomap for the 20th century just passed, and include the events of your and your family's past timeline, noting the work and family arrangements, issues, problems and attempted solutions around work and time for family of men and women alike. Think about the background world events of the last century as part of the timeline: world war, cold war, wide scale divorce, and social inequity and upheaval will, too often, be on your timeline. Then, starting with a family therapy or family systems education session in 2001, generate your hypothetical timeline for the 21st century, with your goals for a balance in your family, education and work like the one in the sample provided. Be sure to include educational, human potential and family relations dreams and goals for you and your spouse or significant other, for sons and daughters, and all the geniuses, including yourself, in your own family and community system, and generate the genograms and ecomaps, including emotional relationships, that you hope might come to pass in your ideal scenarios. Remember this is only an act of imagination, and you need not take everything too seriously. In the software, you can erase your input, or keep it as you wish. How do you hope your genogram and your ecomap will look years from now? For the 21st century and new Millennium, this is the most important thought experiment of all!

Nature, Relation and Time: Synchronicities

The first eclipse of a the 21st Century and new Millennium:
The last eclipse of the 20th Century:
The famous "Einstein" eclipse:
A cultural systemic ecomap as humanity observes the eclipses and reunifies the Einstein-Maric family

This essay, as was its 1999 predecessor at, is being offered as a global gift and what Albert Einstein called "a thought experiment", on June 21, 2001, to bring together in our global minds eye several cultural and natural events and meaningful synchronicities, some "coincidental" and some (on our part) quite intentional, in order to draw world attention to the benefits for our new Millennium of systems awareness, improvements in family therapy, parental leave and pro-family policies, family communication and human services policy occurring in global culture, and related societal issues, including world peace. Some of the synchronicities are:

1) On June 21, 2001, with a new moon, our earth's first total solar eclipse of a new Century and Millennium will occur, itself predated exactly 18 months, by a total lunar eclipse that fascinated and delighted millions of observers on January 21, 2000. The theory of relativity became famous worldwide because of an eclipse that confirmed the theory's relational predictions (that eclipse occurred over the Southern Hemisphere, including Africa, in 1919). An eclipse is essentially a relational event of a complexly linked family triad (part of a much larger system), if you will pardon the metaphor, of sun, moon and earth.

Our earth would burn up under the distant sun's rays if it were not for the ongoing relational presence of the moon and its weight much nearer to us, something that is always present but that we are particularly relationally reminded of during an eclipse. In a sense. for the balance necessary to life on earth, sun and moon are equally, and relationally, important to we, the living and conscious observers of a relational event such as an eclipse. It often all too easy to live a linear illusion and think the sun rises and sets on a line alone with earth. The eclipse, like a genogram, reminds us of the profound and ongoing structural and sensitive relational balances that count for life on earth to continue, and like an ecomap with regard to our family within our community, also reminds us that even this system is part of much more. While the 2001 eclipse will be visible from Africa (as was the original eclipse of 1919 that gave confirmation to relativity theory), the date also marks the first celebration of solstice in the New Millennium for the entire earth. Therefore, with this natural gift of good timing to discuss complex equilibrium and relation as a universal phenomenon, we feel it is an opportune moment for a global thought experiment about relation and system, an exercise in imagination, which Einstein asserted was even "more important than knowledge".

2) 2001-2002 is the 100 year anniversary of the mysterious Lieserl Einstein Maric's conception and birth. Lieserl was the firstborn child and only but lost biological daughter of the person called "Man of the 20th Century", by Time magazine, the man most associated with relation, time and space-time, Albert Einstein, and his wife Mileva Maric Einstein. Born about 3 years before the theory of relativity was offered and at a time when parental leave and family therapy were unheard of, it is believed she was given for adoption, in part because her young parents feared the scientists of 1901 would ostracize them and their work if they had a out of wedlock child, and daughter Lieserl's whereabouts were unknown throughout the 20th century, ultimately probably by even her parents and brothers. Parental leave did not exist in 1901, especially for struggling young student scientists like Albert Einstein and his wife, and that sad ommission and difference from modern times, as our essay will show, likely destined, as a butterly effect in a complex system, both this well intentioned but often suffering famous family and its world to troubles and even war in the 20th century.

The enigmatic name Lieserl translates as "gift of God", and we at WonderWare believe that, in 2001, our increasing global knowledge and shared imagination about her, using insights gained from relativity theory and general and family systems theory depicted by our time travelling genogram and ecomap software, are indeed a symbolic gift for the world's families in the hope of a peaceful 21st century, as you will see in our essays and thought experiments. Although our lack of knowledge and support for Lieserl certainly wounded her family's and our own ability to help our world during most of the 20th century, it will certainly guide our world toward peace in the 21st, thereby fulfilling some of the dearest dreams of both her parents.

3) June 30, 2001 is the 96th year, month and day anniversary of the date the famous E=mc2 relativity essay was first submitted, to the Annalen der Physik, in 1905, many assert, under the Hungarian official family name of husband and wife, Einstein-Marity. The nature of the collaboration and attempt at mutual inspiration/creativity of this famous couple is a matter of increased historic and cultural interest, and important to reconsider culturally, and in an interdisciplinary fashion, as we begin the new Millennium.

4) On June 27-30, 2001, just upon the heels of the dates of the eclipse and exactly during the relativity theory anniversary mentioned above, the family therapy organizations that most likely would have included therapists who would have served Lieserl and the famous Einstein-Marity family had family therapy existed at the time of Lieserl's birth in 1901 - the Hungarian Family Therapy Association and the European Family Family Association - are convening a global conference synchronistically called "Travelling in Time and Space, 2001"). The conference is linked by satellite to the Western Hemisphere of family therapy via the American Family Academy Conference in Miami, and of course, linked to family therapists worldwide via the internet. In contrast to the often nationalistically focussed competitive physics of Albert Einstein's day, today, a healing science grows increasingly globally connected and friendly to men and women colleagues in equal number, and families, around the world. (In 1999, HUSITA, the organization that assists technology development for therapists and human services, also held a conference in Budapest, also timed close to a major solar eclipse, and to which we at WonderWare, Inc. contributed our work on universal relation and technology, during the closing months of the 20th century.)

5) On June 30th 1999, we at WonderWare, Inc, sponsored a cybercelebration of the relativity anniversary and the eclipse which gave confirmation to relativity, by publishing an essay on the Internet about relativity in the interpersonal and world cultural context. That essay also focused on the famous Einstein-Marity (Maric) family in reference to the last solar eclipse of the 20th century, which occurred over both Einstein' and Maric' birthplaces, in 1999, as a metaphor for an increasing process of reunion, in equality and democracy. of the human family on our earth. At that time, we had promised an update to that essay, timed for the first eclipse of the new Millennium. So,

6) Now, starting on June 21-30, 2001 WonderWare, Inc. invites you and other relational experts and students around the world to celebrate the relativity anniversary and relativity reunion in that moment of nature's light show of relation, the event we call an eclipse, again. [(this time, it is an eclipse visible from Africa, some of the same area from which expeditions lead by Quaker and peace-seeking scientist Eddington confirmed relativity originally (Africa) in 1919, also the year women in the US gained the ability to vote along with their men, also a very important relational marker for our planet].

Thus, we are recalling and enjoying all the fortuitous synchronicities, with this 2001 special companion to our 1999 essay. For the 2001 celebration, we once again publish what Einstein called "a thought experiment" essay on the Internet, and are also offering special live chats made available to family therapists and interested others around the world, including attendees to the Family Conferences above (and other conferences later in 2001).

We hope that each visit to the essays will bring new questions, perspectives and stimulate relational and systemic thinking around the world, about our interpersonal universe and its relationship to our awareness of universal natural systems, such as that of our solar system which captures our attention during eclipses. We believe that as we wonder at the stars and their systems above, we can and ought simultaneously wonder at all levels of our human systems, as well. For as it matures, humanity will likely indeed find a grand theory of systems that includes our physical as well as our interpersonal cosmos. As famed family therapist Murray Bowen and author of natural family systems theory said: "A theory, to be worthy of the name, must be consistent with the universe, the planets, the tides and the seasons."

The universe, the planets, the tides, the seasons...and the people. The gifts of God. All worthy of our grandest and yes, most systemic and interdisciplinary theories of everything.
Each and All worthy of Wonder.

"How happy and proud I will be when the two of us together will have brought our work on our [relativity] to a victorious conclusion"

Husband to Wife, Berne 1901
Husbands and Wives to each other and to all Children of the Universe
in collaborations of love and work, Spacetime Earth 2001

WonderWare, Inc.

For more in-depth information about this famous and symbolic family and its world travelling in space and time, we also refer you to its precursor companion essay, written at the close of the 20th century, at

For More Information about WonderWare, Inc relational time travel family genogram and community ecomap software visit

(WonderWare is stewarded by a husband and wife in the shared and increasingly worldwide belief of men and women, that "inc." must, can and will come to spiritually and societally stand for in-cooperation and in-cosmos, and "tm" will come to stand for "thoughtful mark", as part of a world-wide pro-social and gentle turning point, a shared transformation of all human innovation and enterprise toward humane, home/work balanced, democratic, natural, and transcendant values.